Yesterday, I heard a very wise woman share the following sentiment - "We should stop wasting our time bemoaning what we are not and use it to become what we would be."
It has been very interesting to watch at the conclusion of NaNoWriMo and with all the New Year's Resolution/Recap posts the difference in attitude in people. There truly are some who are so disappointed by their inability to accomplish what they thought they could that they are almost unable to see the growth that took place, to celebrate what was accomplished.
One of the hardest things about personal development, either bad/good habits, writing improvement, abilities, etc. is that we often cannot see the improvement as it is happening. And sometimes, when we have the experience of being around people who have success, we feel frustration over our seemingly lack of success.
That's when we have two choices.
One, be frustrated and annoyed that X, Y and Z got a request for a full, an agent, a publishing deal, a best selling novel. Because whatever they post online is clearly in indicator of who they really are and everything they went through and the positive attitude prevalent on their blog means life is all sunshine and lollipops.
Two, recognize that the positive attitude on the blog is WHY X, Y and Z got what they got. Did they have bad days? ABSOLUTELY. But what happened is that the successful people have a way to get rid of that, keeping their eyes on the prize - whatever that may be at that point - and keep working to become what they want to be.
I think if you look at people's resolutions, all of them are in an effort to keep going in the direction of their dreams and the funny thing about life is there isn't a stagnant - we are either progressing or regressing. So I'm going to keep working, keep going where I want to go in spite of the snarky comments from the people who should be supportive, in spite of not hitting the goals exactly in the time frame I wanted. Just keep in mind one of my favorite sayings - the only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth.
What are you doing to keep your eye on the prize? How do you keep yourself positive when life makes it difficult?