Feb 29, 2012

My Busy Time

I have a secret.  Sometimes, I think I'm wonder woman.  Super woman.  Super mom.

And then March rolls around.

I am on the verge of the busiest time of the year for me.  We enter the last quarter of school, I'm in charge of Junior Prom, all three of my kids birthdays are within the last 16 days of March, music festivals, soccer games, dance recitals and competitions, Easter, Parent/Teacher conferences...you get the idea.

Here's my stress.  I have been doing pretty good at writing regularly.  How the heck do I keep that up when I'm being pulled every which way?

I have decided to streamline a bit.  Last year, for my kids' parties, I did the whole at home plan everything parties.  I'm not doing that this year - I'm trying to convince them to do something at a place that is cheap and where the party is pretty much already planned.

There really isn't any way to streamline prom.

And I have finally come to grips with the fact that, concerning my kids schedules, sometimes it's okay to divide and conquer as parents rather than both of us trying to get to everything.

But I have got to keep writing at the forefront of my mind.

How do you keep things prioritized when life gets crazy?  What are you willing to give up for the sake of your writing?  

25 comments :

Shell Flower said...

Good luck with the crazy month ahead. Birthday parties can be a huge stress. Do you have an aquatic center that does parties? In our town that is the easiest place to do a party, IMO. Also ice-skating. Both of those options have built-in activities and then all you need are snacks and cake. I am definitely a fan of having young kids parties NOT at home. It is soooo much easier.

As for giving things up for writing, well, mostly I end up giving up other online pursuits like goodreads and commenting on blogs. It's a hard one.

Miranda Hardy said...

I ignore the housework and kids. That seems to work. Lol

Life can be crazy sometimes, but you do what you need to do.

Cassie Mae said...

I just got out of my crazy month, and I'm not sure if I kept my sanity, lol. But I did manage to write everyday. Even if it was just a sentence or two. And once things slowed down, I was still into the story enough to plow out a whole bunch of words when I had the time.

Guess I'm not much help am I? I really tried to 'do it all', but now I find myself pretty much stretched to my limit and ready for a major vacation

elizabeth seckman said...

I used to get so frustrated when 'life' got in the way of writing. But then I realized life is the biggest part of writing...it's where we get the experiences that become our stories. Now I don't get quite so frustrated.

Annalisa Crawford said...

Wow, you're so busy I almost feel like I shouldn't complain. Hubby's away for a month soon, including the Easter holiday. As he does all the cooking normally, most of my days are going to be spent working out how the oven works rather than writing.

S.P. Bowers said...

Good luck with everything. I've given up TV for writing, also other hobbies, I read a lot less than I used to, and a house only needs to be so clean right? But sometimes, when family is involved, the writing has to be streamlined to just the basic. Just enough to keep my toes in the water. Then when I come back I can immerse myself. We'll be traveling out of state to finalize the adoption of our little girl soon. I know I won't get much done that month.

Dawn Malone said...

When the calendar takes over here, I give up social media. I spend WAAAYYY too much time on it instead of writing.
I'll admit I'm a bit jealous that you have a party to plan! My kids are too old for those kinds of celebrations, and I loved hosting them. Sure, they're a lot of work, but they also inspired some good story/article ideas.
Most importantly, keep writing even it's for ten minutes a day. I can always tell when I've been away from my work for even 1-2 days; it's harder for me to get into the flow again. Good luck!

Rachel Schieffelbein said...

I know the feeling. March is super busy for me, too. Just remember that with all the busy-ness, it will be over before you know it! :)

Emily R. King said...

It's rough when you know you're coming up on a busy season. I get anxious just thinking about it. But if you start with a plan, you'll get some writing done. Here's hoping you find the time!

Joshua said...

Video games. I give up video games. And eating healthy. Oh well. The games will still be there when I get/take the time.

J. A. Bennett said...

I think you need breaks sometimes, just get back to it as fast as you can!

Angela Cothran said...

When things get crazy I drop stuff I don't want to do. I'm a just say "No" kind of gal.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Three birthdays? Wow. Like Joshua, video games tend to go. So does some TV.

Jeigh said...

I give up sleep. And supplement with sugar :)

Susanna Leonard Hill said...

I know the feeling, Tasha! For me, parenting comes first. But it's a rare day when I can't get at least a little writing in, even if it's only 5 minutes with my notebook in the carpool line, or in the morning while my husband is in the shower. If you have to miss blogging for a couple weeks, people will understand. Do what you need for yourself, your family and your writing and the other stuff will be there waiting for you when you have a little more time :)

Erin Shakespear said...

I think we all have those busy times. And sometimes...okay, don't throw anything at me....sometimes the writing does have to suffer.

And it's okay.

I like the quote from Anna Quindlen...

"When in doubt, choose the children. There will be plenty of time later to choose the work."

That being said, I don't always follow this advice. And I always regret it.

So, I would say, figure out the things you need to do and then see what time you have left for the writing. Cut where you can, but don't stress if for a few weeks some other things have to come before the writing. Good luck!

Michael Offutt, Tebow Cult Initiate said...

I don't have kids of my own that would drive me to make a schedule, but I can appreciate that you do. This plan of yours seems like a good one.

Jo said...

I'm sorry, I got stuck on the part where you said you were in charge of junior prom. You do NOT look old enough to have a kid that age!

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I play a relaxation tape and let things go their own way.
Good luck with the junior prom.

Yvonne.

McKenzie McCann said...

April is like that for me, and uh, I do slack off on writing, unfortunately. That probably isn't what you were looking for, but it's true. I pick the pace back up in May.

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I think when you have another career, like your teaching, and have children, you sometimes have to let your writing take a back seat for a time even if only a few weeks. The kids grow up so quick, you can never get those birthdays back and the other commitments pay the bills. Don't feel guilty about it. Summer is coming.

ali cross said...

Such a tough question. And so unique for each of us. For me, I just remember that I need to take care of myself too--especially when life/family demands so much. And for me, writing is part of how I care for myself. I just make it a priority. Sometimes all I get is fifteen minutes--but hey, I'll take whatEVER I can get!

Kate Coursey said...

Generally, I tend to give up sleep. I'm a college student, so I have homework, work, writing, sports, volunteering, and a pretty active social life. I can't imagine having kids on top of that! Good luck with your writing!

Dianne K. Salerni said...

Good luck with the crazy upcoming month!

I suggest picking one or two times a week that can consistently be your dedicated writing time, and make sure the family understands that this is a "hands-off Mom" period.

Mine is 7:30-9:30 every Monday night. (I attend The Practice Room.) My immediate family gets it and is pretty good about it. My extended family -- not so much. They might be a little irked that I won't answer the phone then and that it's not a good time for them to just "drop by." But I'm working on them!

Peggy Eddleman said...

I don't. And therein lies my stress. :) I'm trying to give up being there for everything and doing everything, though! Someday I'll get there.

And huge congrats on winning the critique and a seat at the VIP table at Storymakers!! I'm so excited for you!!